Recharging the Empath 18

self-careRecharging the Empath

Years ago I read a book titled “Are you Really Too Sensitive” by Marcy Calhoun. That was the beginning of my understanding through someone else’s words, what an empath is, why I felt that way I did, and how to take better care of myself. The dictionary describes empath as “a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual.” I will add “whose world is bombarded with feelings and thoughts, oversaturated with internal and external data, that which then, becomes understatedly overwhelming.” Am I speaking your language?

Having heightened senses and feeling thoughts and emotions around us can be confusing and draining. Empath’s can be viewed and labeled as over sensitive, reactionary, delusional, depressed, neurotic, paranoid, crazy, you get the point – and those labels become part of the arduous demands we face. Bottom line – there is nothing wrong with you. You have a gift to share with the world.

Highly sensitive people and empath’s are acutely aware of their surroundings, having the ability to notice slight changes in energy fields. HSP’s and Empath’s can quickly appreciate people’s situations and emotions making them good listeners, great sounding boards and trusted confidents. The difference between Highly Sensitive People and empath’s is that the empath absorbs emotion as their own. I remember sitting in my therapist’s office one day, expressing what I felt and she said “You know Richard; you can’t really feel other people’s feelings”. Note to reader, look for a new therapist.

How Does The Empath Recharge?

By making choices. Our personal choices are imperative to our well-being and thrival. The key is to embrace your gift of sensitivity and train the mind. Own the word “sensitive”; let it become your field of expertise and honor what you feel. In a culture that offers many ways to cope, hope and dope with our worldly problems, we can easily fall prey to drugs or alcohol, food, sex and even excessive pampering and shopping.  Yes, an isolated get-a-way to St. Lucia’s The Body Holiday is nice and may be just what the doctor ordered but, my point here is not to numb yourself.

For most people, present company included, nature is the supreme quick fix, the ultimate ER, 5-star rehab for healing and rejuvenation. Never underestimate the power of the mind in nature. The benefits of self-care in a natural setting are quick and effective. If you can get to the ocean or the mountains, that’s great, but honestly, the local park does wonders. Creativity is also a great way to channel energy through and out of you. So pick up a paintbrush – or favorite form of expression – and get that energy flowing. Mindful eating, an exercise regime, and some form of meditation are also all essential in your recharge toolkit. Below are three ways I practice self-care daily.

Set The Tone 

Frazzle and overwhelm can creep up on us quickly, like an afternoon tropical thunderstorm. That is why it is important to start each day with an intention or tone for the day. Initiate an early morning routine to keep you grounded and your energy stable. On a typical day I will practice yoga, meditation, and journal which help me maintain a present awareness of healthy body and strong mind.

Social Connection

Touch is critical. We know that babies require touch to survive and the same is true for adults. We need a certain amount of physical contact to keep our emotional and nervous systems operating properly. Surround yourself with people who life you up, support your goals and dreams, and hold you lovingly.


When you need to rest, rest! It doesn’t mean you are a non-productive, slacking, lacking individual, it means you know that self-care is a healthy choice for your personal well-being. Make time to create a peaceful ritual in the evening to wind down before going to sleep. I enjoy a cup of chamomile tea while playing some ambient music, like shamanic radio on Pandora, and light my Shoyeido brand Japanese incense. Cultivate your peace.

In closing, is what I believe may be our biggest lesson here. It is not our job to convince! You can’t convince anyone of anything. Nada. You can only lead by example. People that gravitate toward you in a kind, non threatening way, are the ones who need and appreciate the information you share and will typically ask for it. If you feel or sense attack, demands, or negativity, then that is a clear sign to protect your energy and walk away. Namaste.

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18 thoughts on “Recharging the Empath

  • Sue Dreamwalker

    What a wonderfully written post. And one in which I can fully relate to..
    Being empathic myself is at times if one is not careful overwhelming.. And learning to detach from.. and learning to discern what feelings are our own, or that of the world and other people’s stories can be at times hard to distinguish..
    I am still learning.. still peeling away layers of emotions.. And learning afresh each day..

    I am pleased we gravitated to one another’s blogs.. Wishing you Peace in your new week..
    Sue <3

  • dorothychiotti

    Wow! Thank you for this. I was always maligned for being “too sensitive” when I was growing up and quickly learned how to turn it off. As it happens I was discussing this topic with my therapist this afternoon. My whole life for the past three years has been about reconnecting to and nurturing my sensitive nature. Your post simply affirms I am on the right track and doing right by me. I am not flawed. I am gifted, and it’s time for me to own this. Thank you …💐

    • YesRising Post author

      Thanks Dorothy, I love the way the Universe syncs up stuff for us when we are on the right path! So glad you shared, that means the world to me! Richard

  • Robert

    I agree with your approach, the challenge I face is altering my thought processes. When I deny myself something it makes the want increase. After a trying day a work, my thought is to have a glass of wine when I get home. Having a 10-15 walk from the bus stop usually reduces the urge. Being welcomed home by our dog Stan and my partner complete the cure.

  • YesRising Post author

    Yeah, I agree with that. Denying ourselves doesn’t work. That’s why “diet’s” fail most of the time. interrupting thought patterns is what we need to do until our desired “new” behavior kicks in…usually about 21 days…but, it sounds like you have all your healthy interrupters in place 🙂

  • maskednative

    Thank you for this post, those sudden feelings of dis-comfort / sadness / sympathy / sorrow etc. brings the realisation that our intuition is teaching us to listen. Giving it a name, Empath/Sensitive brings recognition. It’s knowing how to respond that is sometimes difficult.